The Rules Don’t Apply Anymore

When people are afraid of something they make a rule. Rules keep people out and protect stuff. Mostly rules all bark and no bite.

When people are afraid of something they make a rule. Rules keep people out, protect stuff, limit impact, and must be agreed to or enforced. But when a rule is silly, like “thou shall not approach a person of influence until thou are of influence” the rule becomes a loud barking dog with no teeth.  Of course you can approach people, ask questions, offer thoughts and your services–it’s practice!

If you have something of value to bring to the table, come to the table! To get good at making stuff happen in your life you have to practice making stuff happen. Please don’t allow silly barking-dog rules chase you or your children away from practicing and becoming successful.

Regret Stinks!

Have you ever missed an opportunity to say something or make something happen because you were breaking an unspoken rule? How long after the missed opportunity did you regret your decision? If given a chance I’ll bet you would do those things differently now.  Good, I sure hope so and I hope you’re encouraging your children in that way also.  How do you do that?  Influence in action through demonstration, of course.  You’ll not only make more things happen in your life, you’ll also be powerfully influencing your children as they watch you GO FOR IT!

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Author: Lorraine Esposito

Lorraine Esposito 914-410-7502 Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports. Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises. Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors. She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.

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