The Fraud Space

We spend a lot of time hiding from possible criticism even though it would free us to move on and do great things.

Have you heard?  The Game of Life, by Milton Bradley,  added a new space on the game board.   It’s an orange space which means that players must stop and follow the instructions.   Fortunately, there are only three such space:

The Career/Professional Fraud Space

Employer discovers you really aren’t smart enough or creative enough or that your product or service doesn’t really work.  Players must either choose:

  1. To be demoted publicly but retain current salary.
  2. Accept a quiet 25% pay reduction while publicly retaining his or her job title.

The Romance Fraud Space

Your rich boyfriend or girlfriend (“Soon to be husband or wife, I hope, I hope, I hope!”) discovers you really aren’t good-looking enough or fit enough, or sexy enough.  Players must choose to either:

  1. Pay $150,000 and lose 2 turns for a series of quiet plastic surgeries. This choice enables the player to continue hoping for marriage.
  2. Get dumped by the boyfriend or girlfriend and spin again to start over with another prospect.

The Parent Fraud Space

Your children discover that you drink, smoke, lie, cheat, are lazy, selfish, eat junk food, pass gas, skip tooth brushing occasionally, drive fast, drive after drinking, drive while texting, don’t look both ways before crossing the street, avoid responsibility, procrastinate, blame others, don’t know the answer to something, or are just plain mean to people sometimes.   Players must choose to either:

  1. Continue the illusion of perfection.  Players choosing to continue the illusion also risk paying the $100,000 Therapy Penalty.  On the players next turn, he or she must spin a 1 to avoid paying the penalty. (Note:  The odds are 1:10 players will avoid the penalty.)
  2. Acknowledge the double standard. Players risk hearing, “I feel betrayed and I no longer worship the ground you walk,” from his or her children.  This choice grants the player and the player’s children a Freedom Card.  Freedom Cards add 10% additional benefit to all the player’s moves throughout the rest of the game.  (Note:  The benefits are greatest if players choose this option early in the game.)

Where you tempted?

How many of you, like me, think it sounds a little easier to take the first options and preserve the outward facade even though it might mean you lose the game?   Remember, the object the game is to:   “Collect money and LIFE tiles, and have the highest dollar amount at the end of the game.”   Obviously I’m making all this up, but it’s one way of highlighting just how far we sometimes consider going to conceal ourselves from others.

Sort of gets you thinking doesn’t it?   We spend a lot of time hiding from possible criticism even though it would free us to move on and do great things.   I wonder which one jarred you the most.   Though we all know which option would be ‘best’ we also know that we would still be torn between them.   Sharing your thoughts will help everyone understand challenges like this better helping us to choose wisely should we ever land on the Fraud Space.

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Lorraine Esposito 914-410-7502 Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports. Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises. Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors. She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.