10 Things a Peacemaker Parent Knows

Knowing who matters and what you’re good at are 2 of the 10 things a Peacemaker Parent knows.

1.   Know who matters most.

Who are you most interested in influencing?  Annually update the list; though your kids and close family remain constant, others come and go according to family dynamics and the ages of your kids.

2.   Know how much you have.

Define your available resources of time, energy, focus, money, etc. and prioritize best uses to help you quickly say ‘yes’ to opportunities and ‘no’ to mere possibilities.

3.   Know what you do well.

Honestly evaluate your strengths, talents, interests, challenges, and dislikes.  Update/hone skills where you can and find quality replacements for everything else.  Always play to your strengths.

4.   Know your parenting promises.

Hold your parenting promises top of mind and measure every decision and action by its ability to help you make good on them.

5.   Know when to help others.

Share wisdom freely with your kids, family, parenting peers, etc., but only with permission.

6.   Know how to expand. 

Think collaboratively rather than competitively and consider new options.  Yes, you’ll stretch your comfort zone, but that’s a good thing.

7.   Know your options.

Do your homework before making choices.  Consider knowledgeable advice, recommended guidelines, peer reviews, and always rely on your own sound judgment.  See number 3.

8.   Know what you’re doing.

Set reasonable goals that can be objectively measured.  Consider the abilities of others so that you avoid frustration or self-handicapping.

9.   Know how to pamper yourself. 

Ensure you’ve reserved plenty of time to care for yourself.  Without you, all the work is for nothing.  Keep in mind the distinction between selfishly generous vs. selfishly self-righteous.

10.  Know what’s next for you.

Plan your encore career—the awesome thing you’ll do once you’ve set your kids on their sturdy legs. It’s like working yourself out of your job – when they don’t “need” you to run their lives, how will you use your time and experience?


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Author: Lorraine Esposito

Lorraine Esposito Lorraine@Peacemaker-Coach.com 914-410-7502 Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports. Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises. Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors. She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.

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