Amazing 3D

Nothing changes the fact that a bus ran a red light nearly killing me and my son, but I CAN change the meaning of the facts.

Thank You Slow Driver!

Thank goodness for little irritating delays; without them I’d probably be dead.

Morning Routine

The usual morning routine:  out the door by 7:30, first a high school drop off, and then one at the middle school. Last Thursday didn’t seem any different, except that it was.

4ish Seconds

After the high school drop off my middle schooler, Jack, and I approached a fairly big and familiar intersection. Since we had the green light I didn’t really slow much as I approached the intersection – I mean the light is green for me, right?

Just 2 car lengths away from entering the intersection, a school bus runs its red light at about 45 mph. Because I was 4ish seconds from the middle of the intersection, the bus whizzed by in front of us.

What Just Happened?

Stunned, confused, and frozen in shock, Jack and I looked around to see the same look of stunned shock on the faces of the other people stopped at the intersection. 

Yes, a school bus just ran a red light and, but for about 4 seconds, Jack and I may have been killed. Wow!

Fear and outrage were first for Jack. He was mad at the bus driver. How dare that driver threaten our lives? How selfish of that person to flaunt the rules without concern for us!  The driver should be chased down, yelled at, and fired!

Yes, the driver needs a wake-up call—and perhaps a new career—however, the driver’s actions are only one piece of the story. For this story to be as amazing as it truly is, Jack will need to find and connect the other pieces.

One Dimensional

The bus driver is one piece of a story. Unless we connect the others all we have are less than amazing stories to tell; life becomes one dimensional, frustrating, and boring. I think that’s why people embellish stories or live vicariously through the stories of others—they’re hungry for the amazing.

Fortunately for us, we know to look for and connect the other pieces. We looked for the piece of this story that explained our 4ish second delay. Low and behold we found another frustrating driver. At an earlier stop light we were behind a driver texting at a red light who took about 4ish seconds to move when the light turned green. Wow!

At the time, I was a bit irritated by the texting driver—not so much that I honked my horn, but irritated nonetheless. Now, I want to kiss that driver.

Looking in 3D glasses

Thursday morning Jack and I could have experienced two, one dimensional stories about two different frustrating drivers; a less than amazing start to the day. But, by connecting the pieces into one powerful multi-dimensional story, we have an amazing experience of the interconnected nature of all things past, present, and future.

We are able to replace harsh judgment of others with appreciation and wonderment. We are now curious about other connections and encouraged that they do, in fact, exist even if we aren’t able to see them.

Facts Are Only One Piece

The facts of the morning are that Jack and I may have lost our lives as a school bus ran a red light. Nothing can change the facts, but the meaning of the facts is greatly changed by connecting the other pieces of the story. I was able to help Jack change the meaning of the facts so that as he walked into school that morning he felt special and grateful, he was curious about the day and he felt loved –loved by unseen, yet oh so powerful forces. Wow! That’s anything but frustrating or boring.

Finding Rare Gifts

Rarely are we given witness to such proof of the amazing. So, the next time you’re outraged by something or someone, stop to consider the gift you’ve been given. Look for the other pieces that connect. While you may not be as fortunate as Jack and I were this morning to witness the gift, perhaps now you can assume that a gift was given and just accept it with thanks.

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Author: Lorraine Esposito

Lorraine Esposito 914-410-7502 Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports. Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises. Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors. She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.

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