The Cringe of a Back-Up Plan

Use the power of the Plan B cringe to get you through the challenges of Plan A.

A back-up plan is the slightly less fulfilling version of a first choice. We fall back on Plan B when Plan A goes south. There are two schools of thought about back-up plans:

School of Thought 1:  Back-Up Plans Are Dangerous

Some discourage creating Plan B because they believe it makes it too easy to give up on a dream should Plan A get challenging—and Plan A always gets challenging at some point. When the going gets rough, you’ll opt-out.

School of Thought 2:  Back-Up Plans Have Cringe Energy

If your dream—your Plan A—is compelling and passionate, the thought of having anything less than exactly Plan A will make you cringe so hard that you’ll find a way to get through the challenges.

Not ‘All or Nothing’

The kind of back-up plan I’m talking about isn’t a black/white choice of all or nothing. I’m referring to a second choice that’s less colorful or fulfilling than your first choice. For example, I recently watched Beyonce’ perform at Barclays Center in Brooklyn, NY. I imagine that, all along, Beyonce’s Plan A was to become a powerful entertainer that could stand center stage in front of a packed audience. (She did and it was awesome!)

Her Plan B might have been to perform as a back-up singer; still on stage but not front and center. I’m sure Beyonce’ must have felt the cringe, don’t you think?

Your Challenge

Your challenge this week is to find your cringe. Spend some time clarifying what you’ll have to give up or miss out on if you opt-out of your Plan A. If you don’t cringe pretty hard, then reconsider Plan A—it might not be as compelling and passionate as you thought. But, if you feel the grip of that cringe, remember to use its energy when you need help pulling through a challenge.

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Author: Lorraine Esposito

Lorraine Esposito Lorraine@Peacemaker-Coach.com 914-410-7502 Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports. Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises. Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors. She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.