Friend the Monster

You’re going to need to bring everything to the table

How about the performance by Eminem and Rhianna on the MTV Movie Awards last night? They performed The Monster; a song that embodies a HUGE concept of life coaching.

Life Coaching ‘Rapped’ Up in Song

Eminem’s monster is his own fear and self-doubt—something familiar to us all. We’ve been told to banish bad thoughts, to ignore them, and to only listen to positive affirmations about ourselves. The problem is that the more we ignore the ‘monsters’, the louder they get.

Successful Party

The trick is to make friends with all your voices – the monsters and the angels.  Think of them as party guests. To have a successful party (metaphor for a successful outcome) all your guests need to be welcomed, respected, and paid attention to. All your guests.

One way to respect a ‘monster’ voice is to hear its challenge as a legitimate question, “Who do you think you are?” Consider the question, answer legitimately, and the ‘monster’ no longer disrupts your party. Why? Because its purpose is to make sure you’re prepared to leap—not to prevent you from leaping.

Bottom Line

Try as you may to ignore or to drown out fearful thoughts, eventually you’ll need to answer them before they will allow you to move. So, make friends with all of your powerful thoughts. You’re going to need to bring everything to the table, all your experiences, all your creativity, all your hunger if you’re to have what it takes to succeed. Bringing only half—even if it’s the ‘good’ half—won’t be enough.

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Author: Lorraine Esposito

Lorraine Esposito 914-410-7502 Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports. Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises. Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors. She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.

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