Trapped in Guilt

Four ways to side-step the guilt trap.


Too many people live in a state of constant guilt. They feel guilty if they spend a cent on themselves, or if they miss something, or if anything goes wrong.

Mostly, guilt is triggered when your behavior is at odds with your values.

Four Ways Out of the Guilt Trap

  1. If you don’t want anyone to know what you’re doing it’s a signal that you’re ashamed of it. Don’t do it!
  2. Check in with your motives. If you were asked to explain your actions would you be willing to be honest? If not, don’t do it!
  3. Stop living separate lives or being different people in different settings. You’ll be constant fear of being found out a fraud. Integrate your life.
  4. Would it be okay for your children or grandchildren to do? If not, don’t do it!


Try one idea for a week. Pay attention to your level of stress and your overall opinion of yourself. If you’re not happy with what you find, try one or two of these ideas and keep watch. Eventually, you’ll find a way out of the guilt trap.

Trapped in Guilt

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Author: Lorraine Esposito

Lorraine Esposito 914-410-7502 Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports. Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises. Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors. She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.

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