Five things to consider doing before rushing in to fill the vacancy.
No matter how a relationship ends, so many people rush to fill the vacancy. Instead of rushing in, perhaps it’s time to pause and think about yourself.
Five things to considerbeforeyou fill the vacancy
1. Check for Dead Weight
Compromise is part of building strong relationships, however, now that this one is over it’s time to go back and decide whether you want to stay with those changes or drop them like so much dead weight.
2. Empty the Suitcase
Still mad, sad, or in pain from the breakup? You’re carrying around some baggage. Deal with the leftovers so you don’t burden someone new.
3. Takes Two to Tango
It’s logical to assume that you had a hand in the breakup, so be honest with yourself about your contribution and forgive.
4. Love Yourself
Others will come and go but you’ll have YOU forever. Learn to love yourself and treat yourself really well.
5. Reconnect with Friends
Existing friendships often get put on the back burner to make room for romance. Now you have time to reconnect with the people who are, and will always be, by your side.
We generally think of a fork-in-the-road as a two-choice juncture, but maybe you’re facing a three-tined fork.
There comes a point at which big decisions are required—the proverbial fork in the road. We generally think of it as a two-choice juncture, but for those of us struggling with a big choice, it may be that, instead of facing a two-tined fork, you’ve been facing a three-tined fork.
Left – Yes! A path leading forward and beyond
Right – No! A path leading forward and beyond
Center – Dabbler. A path leading in a circle
The Deceptive Center Path
The center path of the dabbler crosses the other two paths so that, for a time, you may feel as though you’re moving forward. In reality, though, the gradual loop is just leading you back to the beginning—the original fork in the road. You’re no closer to anything beyond this big choice.
It’s my feeling that either the left or right paths can lead you to ultimate success; freeing you from the loop to nowhere. Staying on the dabbler’s path will only tease you with glimpses and short-lived experiences of that ultimate success.
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