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Author: Lorraine Esposito
Lorraine Esposito is a certified professional life coach, mentor coach, owner of The Center for Coaching Mastery at Westchester Community College in New York, and nationally recognized author of The Peacemaker Parent, Solving Problems for Today, Teaching Independence for a Lifetime, Lorraine is the featured life coach for a popular New York radio station, WFAS 103.9 FM and is in collaboration with and featured blogger for the National Football League and USA Football adding a ‘coach approach’ to coaching youth sports.
Lorraine’s client base includes CEO’s in the entertainment industry, White House and Capitol Hill public affairs staff, entrepreneurs, global TED speakers, award winning writers, new coaches just starting out, successful business women between 40 and 55 looking for more out of life, and parents needing a little help making good on their parenting promises.
Lorraine’s career matches the diversity in her coaching practices. Starting out in the rural mid-west, Lorraine has owned four small businesses; the first, an automobile repair center, started at age 16. Her corporate experience is mainly in negotiating multimillion dollar contracts as the buyer of domestic in-flight food and beverages for Trans World Airlines and then as a procurement manager for the New York City Transit Authority. Lorraine’s strength has always been creatively finding solutions to even the most complicated goal. In addition, Lorraine’s 30 years as a professional fitness coach continues to add depth to all her endeavors.
She has been featured in various print, broadcast, and on-line media and is a public speaker regarding personal leadership to community and school-based audiences. Lorraine lives in New York with her husband and two teenage sons.
Test a concept or suggestion with the intention of shrinking it to a usable size. Once you’ve found the meaningful and useful bits, the rest will be easy to let go of.
Chasing Shiny Info.
Reading books, taking classes, watching videos, etc. are all great ways to acquire information. Just being exposed to new knowledge can open new possibilities of thought, but that’s as far as it can go unless you try it on for size.
True knowing requires a test drive because true knowing happens through the body not by study.
Are you a career student, a self-help junkie, or someone who never feels quite ready to do something? Sure, you’re wired to be curious, so shiny new information attracts your attention, but putting too much stuff in your brain can turn good information into a liability. All that possibility is distracting and anxiety causing unless you’re turning at least some of it into opportunities.
Test driving ideas shrinks them and makes them usable. You’re trimming off the bits that don’t fit and reshaping the bits that do fit based on your experience. Ah, that’s better! What’s left can be prioritized and its purpose is clear.
It’s your turn to take this idea out for a spin. Are you trying to make a decision or does the thought of taking an action create anxiety? Perhaps one place to look for relief is in a test drive of the information you’re using. Test a concept or suggestion with the intention of shrinking it to a usable size. Once you’ve found the meaningful and useful bits, the rest will be easy to let go of.
3 kinds of self-help junkies and 3 ideas for kicking the habit.
Have you ever known someone who reads a lot of self-help or motivational stuff but doesn’t really ever doanything differently? They’re just walking around spouting jargon and positive affirmations?
Three Types of Addicts
Some are information addicts who see learning as a form of entertainment. They know a lot of great stuff, but nothing changes in their lives. Nothing wrong with this, by the way, as long as the addict isn’t expectingmuch to change.
If you’re an information addict, perhaps learning like this is getting in the way of your success. Try switching the way you get information for 6 months. Stop reading to learn and try learning from life’s events.
Many people get a sort of ‘high’ on the notion of potential and possibilities. There’s a boost of energy comes along with the notion of one’s potential or expanded/limitless possibilities. Buying the next book by Seth Goden or Brene’ Brown is a ‘puff’ of an energy fix.
If you’re getting high on potential, perhaps there’s a problem staring at you that you’re not looking back at directly. It may take some self-help detox for you to find out.
Affirmations and self-help jargon are often used by people as a way to keep a positive outlook while they’re waiting for reality to become positive. It’s not a bad way to go as long as you have a plan to make tangible changes. With too much focus upward, you may find yourself slowly sinking in the muck of your life.
If you’re using affirmations and jargon as a lifeline, perhaps it’s time to get professional help to work through the issues that may be holding you back.
Breaking the self-help habit can be very challenging. The first step is to objectively assess the dynamic driving your addiction.