Five things to consider doing before rushing in to fill the vacancy.
No matter how a relationship ends, so many people rush to fill the vacancy. Instead of rushing in, perhaps it’s time to pause and think about yourself.
Five things to considerbeforeyou fill the vacancy
1. Check for Dead Weight
Compromise is part of building strong relationships, however, now that this one is over it’s time to go back and decide whether you want to stay with those changes or drop them like so much dead weight.
2. Empty the Suitcase
Still mad, sad, or in pain from the breakup? You’re carrying around some baggage. Deal with the leftovers so you don’t burden someone new.
3. Takes Two to Tango
It’s logical to assume that you had a hand in the breakup, so be honest with yourself about your contribution and forgive.
4. Love Yourself
Others will come and go but you’ll have YOU forever. Learn to love yourself and treat yourself really well.
5. Reconnect with Friends
Existing friendships often get put on the back burner to make room for romance. Now you have time to reconnect with the people who are, and will always be, by your side.
Filling personal needs is a big and deeply personal topic. One blog post can’t do this important issue justice, but it can get you started.
Realize that your personal needs aren’t just ‘important’-they are essential.
Pick one personal need to start with. It need not be major, just something that, if you picture your life with plenty of this thing, you’d see something truly amazing.
To be Accepted, Included, Appreciated
To Accomplish, Achieve, Attain
To be Needed, Useful, Liked
Identify the source of this need. Was it something you lacked as a child, is it the result of an important life event, is it culturally or ethically based? Knowing its origin will help you to accept it, respect it, and start doing something about it.