Successful Failure

Why are successful people waking up feeling like failures?

More and more successful people are waking up feeling like failures.

What many people are just becoming aware of is that success has two parts:

  • Accomplishing or achieving things for others
  • Accomplishing or achieving things for ourselves

Assumptions Were Made

Okay, maybe we sort of knew there were two parts, but we made assumptions.

Assumption #1: If/Then Magic

One assumption may be that success in one part would just magically take care of the other.

o   If I provide for the family then I’ll have a close relationship with them.

o   If I choose family over career then I’ll have satisfied my life purpose.  

Assumption #2: Tomorrow Will Come

Another assumption is that once we’ve ‘made it’ in one part we’ll have plenty of time to be successful in the other.

o   Once I retire I’ll make it up to my spouse or kids.

o   Once the kids are gone I’ll pick up where I left off in my career.

There are flaws in both assumptions and this is why successful people are waking up to find themselves feeling like failures.

New Framework

Strategically planning so that you’re considering both parts of success in every decision is a new framework for many people, so do yourself a favor and start small.

  1. Pick one small activity you do on a regular basis: a hobby, attending a group meeting, fitness training, etc., something small and regular.
  2. Check to see how this one small activity connects to winning each part of success.
  3. Find ways to tweak the activity for better contribution to both parts of your success.

Being aware like this now will help to prevent feeling like a successful failure later.

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Mother’s Day Appreciation

We all need to know that we’re needed, not just that we give needed things.

With Mother’s Day approaching, it may be useful to revisit the distinction between gratitude and appreciation.

Gratitude acknowledges the ‘thing’ given.

Thanks for dinner. Thanks for the ride.

Gratitude is objective and it’s all about the recipient — you.

Appreciation acknowledges the ‘effort’ given.

I appreciate the time it took to make such a wonderful dinner.

Thanks for going out of your way to drive me home.

Appreciation is empathetic and it’s all about the giver – the person.

It’s great to give gratitude for the things we receive, but giving appreciation is even more meaningful. Why? Because we need to know that WE are needed – not just that we give needed things.

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